Everyone hates seeing things come to an end, whether its your favorite movie, the life of a loved one, or that amazing getaway trip you took, but, if there is one thing most of us absolutely love and celebrate its ending is the conclusion of a year. In fact, there have been many articles written before about why new year's eve is the best holiday universally. Some say its the excitement that gets them, while others believe that is the best time to reflect not only on your self but your surroundings. If you ask me, I would say I love how every celebration is accepted during this time, and the sense of newness the begging of a new year brings.
New Year , New Me
This sense of newness fills many with optimism which in return motivates them to draw new year resolutions. In this article, I want to share with you why I didn't set new year resolutions for the year 2019 touching on three points:
1. From resolutions to clear goals.
Although it's only the 6th day of the year, I am confident that many people have started going against their new year resolution. Reasons for this could include setting unrealistic resolutions, encountering burdens financially, emotionally, etc, but the main reason is that there is no plan in achieving them. Hence I am setting very achievable short-term goals with a clear strategy that contributes to the bigger picture instead of drawing new year resolutions.
2. From being a futurist to being a Now-ist.
The idea of New year resolutions is strongly associated with planning for the "future", and although this has in some instances helped others, I believe in what Joi Ito (Director of Media Lab MIT) said in his Ted Talk when he was sharing why real innovation comes from being a now-ist. In his talk he says "I think it's about stopping this notion that you need to plan everything, you need to stock everything, and you need to be so prepared, and focus on being connected, always learning, fully aware, and super present."
3. Most of my inspirations don't do new year resolutions.
Melinda Gates - Shared in her post that instead of doing traditional new year resolutions, she choses a word that she will practice the whole year. For example in 2016, the word she chose was "gentle". In her post she said "Last January, I chose the word “gentle,” and I’ve spent 2016 trying to put it into practice—being gentler to those around me, gentler in my approach to the world, and most importantly, gentler to myself."
Oprah Winfrey - In an interview with Rachael Ray in 2017, Oprah said "For years I would do these kind of resolutions like, 'God, let me know love,'" she said. "And then what you get hit with is everything that isn't love to see if love will show up. So, I just said, 'I ain't asking God for nothing else.'"
Tim Ferriss - In his blog Tim said he no longer selects a New Year's resolution, instead he divides a sheet of paper into two columns labeled "positive" and "negative." Then, fish through your calendar from the past year for activities or commitments that triggered peak positive or negative emotions for that month. Place each activity in its respective column.This is calls "past year reviews" (PYRs) and he finds them more valuable and actionable.
So I challenge you to set a goal for the next upcoming week, it could be something small like saying thank you, or reminding your self to be kind to you and others, to not be quick to talk rather listen attentively etc.